Social skills are the skills we use to communicate and interact with each other, both verbally and non-verbally, through gestures, body language and our personal appearance.Human beings are sociable creatures and we have developed many ways to communicate our messages, thoughts and feelings with others.
Developing social skills is about being aware of how we communicate with others, the messages we send and how methods of communication can be improved to make the way we communicate more efficient and effective.
There are distinct advantages to having well developed social skills.
Making Connected Comments
Video Description: Chris and Alessandra are talking about Chris’s soccer game when Alessandra starts talking about her favorite type of pizza. Chris is confused because what Alessandra said didn’t connect back to what Chris said. Alessandra learns that comments should fit together, like puzzle pieces. When she tries again, she makes a comment back that relates to Chris’s soccer game and they have a successful conversation!
Video Description: When Kate and Sarah are making plans, Kate really wants to get Chinese food and go bowling. When Sarah says she doesn’t like those things, Kate doesn’t want to change the plans. Kate learns about compromising – when you take one piece of everyone’s idea to make everyone happy.
Working in Groups
When we work in a group, there are a few things we have to do. We have to work together, listen to each other, and all do some of the work. That way your project can be a success!
Taking a Break to Calm Down
Bobby is struggling with a worksheet. He gets angrier and angrier until he explodes and rips his paper. His actions disrupted the rest of the class. When Bobby tries again, he realizes he is starting to get upset and uses his strategies to calm down. After he takes a deep breath, he starts to feel better.
Listening With Your Body
Jeff is working on the computer when Mike and Kate want to talk. Jeff doesn’t turn around from the computer, so his friends aren’t sure if he wants to talk. Jeff should show he’s listening with his eyes, ears, and body. Next time, he turns around to make sure his friends know he’s listening.
Making Eye Contact
Owen doesn’t make eye contact when he has a conversation with Johnny. Johnny feels confused by this and thinks Owen doesn’t want to talk to him. When Owen correct his behavior and looks at Johnny while they talk, the conversation goes smoothly.